Felicity's World: An Interview
Andrew Paterson—08/2003 |
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I had the good fortune
to sit beside Felicity a few months ago at an Alternatives
lecture here in London. I had arrived fairly early
and sat at the back as usual. Just as the opening
announcements were being made, a woman in her late
forties slipped into the seat beside me. I took
little notice of her and focused on the introductory
speaker. After our five minutes of silence, there
is a custom at Alternatives to introduce yourself
to a person sitting near you if you want to. That
is how I met Felicity. |
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THE END of
the lecture, we chatted some more, and I quickly realized
that Felicity is a little unusual and rather interesting:
she has made a deep conscious commitment to take responsibility
for her reality. Whilst this is nothing new in so called
New Age and Self Help circles, the focus and commitment
that she puts into this is nothing short of inspirational.
I mentioned that I would love to interview her, which
she later agreed to after checking out this site, and
provided that I change her name and not give any description.
Here is a transcript of a short interview that was
taped sitting outside a small café by the river.
(The interview has been slightly edited for readability
although most of it remains unaltered.) |
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| AP: Hi
Felicity and thank you for agreeing to be interviewed
for EnergyGrid. It was fortuitous that I bumped into
you at Alternatives. |
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| Felicity: It
is nice to meet you and I believe that everything
happens for a reason. Normally I would run a mile… run
a mile… from an interview, but having looked
at the site and of course knowing your intentions,
I believe my words won't be twisted and my privacy
will be respected. |
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| AP: Privacy
is important to you… |
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| Felicity: Yes,
very important. It is not because I have anything
to hide, it is more an avoidance of others' beliefs
and paradigms. These can be quite toxic and contagious
and so I avoid them. |
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| AP: Lets
back up here a moment because I want to set the scene
for our readers. You told me that you take 100% responsibility
for creating your own reality, and that this wasn't
confined to a few bouts of visualisation and affirmations
each day but to a full commitment to the choices you
make, thoughts that you have throughout the day, and
the beliefs that you hold. |
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| Felicity: Yes,
that is my commitment. That is my main focus in life
and I can tell you it takes focus. Everyone around
you is trying to pull you in a different direction… you
know… drag you down into victim mode or blame
this and that. This is especially prevalent in the
green and anti-globalist movements. |
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| AP: But
that is for good reason… there are large corporations
out there that are literally destroying this beautiful
planet for their selfish ends. |
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| Felicity: I
can understand your perspective. I really can and used
to hold to it myself. Where do you draw the line between
just burying your head in the sand and pointing a finger?
I have great respect for activists, but I do feel that
there is a much more powerful way to change this world
and that is to change yourself. When I was younger
I was involved in activism and I can tell you that
most activists I remember are pretty negative and angry
people. They love pointing the finger. Sure, many will
recycle, but what about their minds… their psychology.
Do they take responsibility for the hatred and anger
that often accumulates there? |
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| AP: They
are negative because there are a lot of negative things
happening around the world. And they are angry because
only anger seems to be powerful enough an emotion to
fire up resistance in today's society of infinite distraction. |
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| Felicity:
Yes, I can see that, but suppose for a second that
our minds literally create our reality. This world
for me is a shared mental creation or lucid dream.
This doesn't mean our experience of it is unreal… you
can still stub your toe in a dream and feel the pain.
Now imagine what sort of affect that that anger, blame
and negativity pouring out of activists has on the
world. Sure, it is an honest reaction and shows that
they care, but if our minds create our reality, than
that sort of reaction is counterproductive. It feeds
the very thing… [can't hear this bit due to
noise from another table]. |
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| AP:… expect
them to just sit and watch the world go down the tubes? |
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| Felicity: No,
of course not. But if our minds are all connected… leading-edge
scientific research is showing this with psi experiments… then
we will have a much more powerful remedial impact on
this world if we focus on our closest connection to
what is going on… our own minds. If you believe
that the mind does not creates reality and that we
are not intimately connected, then of course going
out and being an activist is the only thing left to
do. |
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| AP: That's
a big if. If you are wrong then you will have sat by
and watched the world destroy itself. |
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| Felicity: It
works both ways… if I am right, and as I mentioned
there is a lot of new scientific discovers showing
how embedded the mind is in reality and therefore how
powerful it is in forming that reality, then my way
is the only way that will work. Maybe all those activists
rushing around being angry and blaming others are the
very thing that will lead this world to destruction. |
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| AP: I
see your point Felicity. I suppose to do both would
be the most effective? |
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| Felicity: Yes
and no. If being an activist means that you have to
spend time with other activists then you probably won't
be able to sustain your belief in reality creation.
Paradigms are infectious. The best form of activism
is to embody the solution as Gandi did. If you get
angry, if you get desperate, if you find yourself hating
the "perpetrators" like Tony Blair or George
Bush, you are part of the problem. You can never heal
a problem with the same psychology that created it
in the first place… Einstein said that… I've
forgotten the actual quote. |
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| AP: I
know the one you mean. Most activists see that quote
as meaning that they need to think green, rather than
thing that they should stop the blame! But you have
something much deeper in mind. |
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| Felicity: It
is an emotional response as well. If you are an angry
activist, thinking green, you are still too close to
the problem to be of much effect. Your emotions and
perspectives have to change. |
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| AP: How? |
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| Felicity: The
first thing to do would be to step backwards, stop
being an activist for a little while whilst you make
peace with your inner demons… multinational
corporations, governments, politicians, George Bush,
Tony Blair… [laughs]… I know… I
didn't say it was easy! You must feel love for those
people and institutions. That doesn't mean you support
what they do, but you must genuinely feel love for
them and realize that, from their perspective, they
do what they do out of ignorance. Only when you can
feel genuine love for them can you realize that you
and they are one. You are responsible for their actions
as well. This is the hardest part. We project our shadow,
those parts of ourselves we try to disown because we
see them as horrible, onto these evil men, women and
corporations when it is actually integration with that
shadow that produces wholeness. Taking responsibility,
direct responsibility for what is going on in the world
is essential. We have to forgive ourselves for the
harm we have done to others and the world through the
actions of certain people and multinationals — which
of course are ultimately us as well. We have to go
through the whole process and we have to do it honestly
or there will be no healing. |
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| AP: And
when that happens the world changes? |
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| Felicity: Our
world changes. We have embodied the solution. Problems
will still go on in the world but at least we are not
contributing to them. Remember, reality as we know
it is a consensus reality of everyone on the planet… and
we are all free to create the reality that we want
to. If I can look on the world with love then I am
no longer feeding energy into its destruction. |
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| AP: That
is a pretty powerful statement. So when you embody
the solution you can look on the problem with acceptance
because you respect the right of others to contribute
to consensus reality whilst at the same time pushing
out an alternative perspective that can start to help
shift that consensus reality. |
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| Felicity: Exactly.
You become the change that is needed outside. You [emphasis]
become it. You take responsibility. And in doing that,
in changing yourself, you change the world. Its not
wishy-washy New Ageism. It takes great focus and determination
to change yourself. It is much [emphasis] easier to
either rush out into the world and try to change things
there, or bury your head in religious or New Age platitudes
that basically deny our personal responsibility. |
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| AP: How
do you change the world and yet still respect the right
of other people to contribute to its design? |
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| Felicity: That
is a hard one. When we see a consensus reality creation
that is destructive, there is a tendency to want to
force change. This, however, does not respect other's
place as co-creators of reality. It is important to
remember that the majority of people today have reached
a stage in which they actually need a crisis situation
to move onto the next stage. So if you avert that crisis
situation for them, without involving them directly
as part of the solution, then you do them no favours.
Of course there are situations where basic physical
needs are not being met — a person may be for
example dying of hunger — and in this situation
that person is obviously not in a position to reach
greater consciousness anyway until the physical problem
has been addressed. But we must never forget that crises
can be a powerful baptism for consciousness. |
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| AP: It
is a dilemma isn't it. At this time humanity is in
a terrible ecological and sociological crisis and God
or our ET friends don't seem to be rushing in to save
us. At least not yet! |
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| Felicity: And
for good reason! [laughs] |
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| AP: I
wanted to finish up by asking you about relationships.
When you become a conscious co-creator of reality,
what happens with relationships? |
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| Felicity: Now
that is a tough one! [laughs] Relationships can be
and often are a huge problem… a source of pain
and happiness, usually combined. When I really started
to make a commitment to create my own reality I had
to leave my husband because he was reinforcing the
old victim mentality at every opportunity. Not in a
nasty or deliberate way, he just couldn't help it as
it was his worldview. I did try to explain to him what
I was doing but he was not ready for that sort of change… yet.
I still love him dearly but I realized that I needed
to leave him in order to fully make the changes that
I needed to make and to become an effective catalyst
for global change. Fortunately, our daughter was in
her late teens so she was already spending most of
her time away from home. Incidentally, she is open
to these ideas although the momentum of life at the
moment is too fast and exciting for her to make the
commitment. But I know she will and hopefully I will
be there for her when she does. |
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| AP: What
does your husband think of you now? |
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| Felicity: He
thinks I'm a little mad. He has since remarried to
a woman who shares his worldview. I know he isn't really
happy inside because there is no challenge, but that
is his choice. |
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| AP: Are
you in a relationship now? |
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| Felicity: Yes,
I am. I met a man at a spiritual workshop and we both
share the same view of conscious reality creation.
It is such a pleasure to be with somebody who reinforces
those inner beliefs. But having said that, I would
definitely rather be alone than to be with somebody
who does not do that. Most of us are so afraid to be
alone that we lose our discernment for the company
we keep. If we live conscious lives, in our off time
or down time we must either be around people who reinforce
our highest, or be alone. That is a golden rule that
if we break, we will never become conscious. |
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| AP: That
sounds rather draconian! |
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| Felicity: It
does. But that's definitely my experience. After I
left my husband I was with a man briefly who I was
strongly attracted to. It was fun for a while, but
I found myself trying to be with him as little as possible
out of bed! [laughs]. It was fun to be caught up in
the romance thing again… for a while… but
I certainly always felt that I wasn't going anywhere.
My growth stagnated during that time. Of course that
doesn't mean it wasn't loving and enjoyable at times. |
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| AP: I
can see that we have run past our time. I know that
you had somewhere else to go. Can you summarize your
approach to life? |
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Felicity: Yes,
I have to be somewhere soon. The most important point
is that we create our own reality, period. And to do
that we have to embody the solution to both our personal
problems and to global problems. We must become a walking
solution. We do that by being 100% responsible for
the thoughts that we think and the beliefs that we
hold. Whenever something isn't working, that is an
opportunity for more consciousness… to uncover
unconsciousness. And so we learn to walk this world
fully empowered and with love. We no longer play the
victim. By embodying the solution we most effectively
spread consciousness to the world. Our influence on
everyone we meet is orders of magnitude greater than
if we just harped on about world destruction and how
horrible Bush is etc. That is real change and that
is the purpose of this Earthly training ground!  |
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| I didn't
really structure the interview very well in the short
amount of time that I had with Felicity, preferring
instead to let it go where it wanted to. I do plan,
however, to do a longer follow-up interview with her
sometime. Ap. |
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